Hindsight: seeing the beauty in suffering

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‘When you look back at your own life, you see that with the suffering you went through, you would have avoided it each time if you possibly could, yet when you look at the depths of your character now, and the fact that you’re sitting here doing this work, you see it’s all a product of those experiences.

Weren’t those experiences part of what created the depth of your inner being?
I look back over the times when I was suffering miserably. I certainly wouldn’t lay it on myself if I’d had a choice, but it happened. It was part of the working out of my life plan, and now when I look back in perspective, I see the power of those experiences. I see how they deepened something in me that was necessary for the moment.’

– Ram Dass

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Let It Go

Let It Go


Let go of the ways you thought life would unfold:
the holding of plans or dreams or expectations – Let it all go.
Save your strength to swim with the tide.
The choice to fight what is here before you now will only result in struggle, fear, and desperate attempts to flee from the very energy you long for. Let go.

Let it all go and flow with the grace that washes
through your days whether you received it gently or with all your quills raised to defend against invaders.
Take this on faith; the mind may never find the
explanations that it seeks, but you will move forward nonetheless. Let go, and the wave’s crest will carry you to unknown shores, beyond your wildest dreams
or destinations. Let it all go and find the place of rest and peace, and certain transformation.

 Danna Faulds

Embrace Life

 

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“Oh my God, what if you wake up some day, and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written; or you didn’t go swimming in warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; and you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid? It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen.”

-Anne Lamott 

Suffering: the Gateway to our Enlightenment.

7a8bacd29e6f80e2af8227283e0fcef8‘After decades of research into the meaning of Enlightenment and a series of dark nights of my ego, I came to find that the definition of Enlightenment is simply this: the release of the resistance to what is. Out beyond resistance, right in the heart of all distress, all pain and all despair, is untarnished Enlightenment just waiting to be realized. When we drop the resistance to what is, the clarity of True vision is restored .

Enlightenment is an awareness already inside of us and when we remove the blocks that veil us to this Truth, Enlightenment is revealed. What are the blocks that we need to remove?

Block 1: The resistance to what is. What resists what is? Our ego! Block 2: The resistance to Self Love. What resists Self Love? Our ego! Here’s the deal about Enlightenment: the undoing of ego resistance requires a Universe of Self Love to undertake. But hey, in Truth we are one with the Universe so guess what? We have a Universe of support in this Self Love department!

The release of the resistance to what is is not about checking out, turning our back on injustice, or not standing up for what’s right. The release of resistance is about checking in, accepting this moment exactly as it is and saying “Okay, I trust that whatever’s going on right now has been invited in for my Awakening and the Awakening of Humanity. Instead of resisting what is, I will use this situation as an invitation for Enlightenment. I will choose to take action from a place of Love, and to start, I will Love my Self that much more . ”

There’s a great intelligence in our suffering, for our suffering is a gateway to our Enlightenment. Enlightenment is not about reaching some static plane of cushy bliss by any means. Enlightenment is an underlying Peace that endures even in our deepest Human grief and it is often through our darkest hour that we pierce the veil of suffering and enter into a surrendered state of Grace. From this place of non-resistance a profound alchemy occurs, we transcend the egoic spell of fear and doubt and the remembrance of an Omnipotent Love is returned to us. Give resistance it’s freedom and you will know Enlightenment.’ -Alana Leigh

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Well, hello there 2018!

Happy New Year! Thank you to both my old and newer subscribers.  I really enjoy my time connecting with you all.

Whilst I thoroughly enjoy reading about mindfulness and Buddhism as it pushes me in my own practice, I equally enjoy reading your personal stories. The stories of triumph, despair, and my favorite stories of all, ones related to the heart. So, thank you for being you and sharing part of your journey with me. I look forward to reading your coming posts.

I will be going live with my new website this year. I have been collating mindful jewelry, some of which I designed and I can’t wait to share it with you. They will be pieces that may help you on your journey to live a more mindful and peaceful existence. The process of getting the website live has been much longer and much more challenging than I had ever imagined. :S  However, the finishing line in is sight.

May we embrace all that comes our way in 2018.  May we accept all that arrives and treat it as if it were a gift, for none of us know what’s installed, but one thing is certain, resistance to what is creates conflict. So let’s accept what is. Be present. Be mindful. For that is the path to peace.

May you be well.

May you be happy.

May you be free from suffering.

Namaste!

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Bridey

Spritual Practice -Bo Lozoff

There is no spiritual practice
More profound than
Being kind
To one’s family,
Neighbors,
The cashier at the grocery store,
An unexpected visitor,
The con in the next cell,
A stray cat or dog,
Or any other of the
Usually “irrelevant” or “invisible”
Beings who may cross our paths
In the course of a normal day. 

Certainly
There are spiritual mysteries
Beyond description
To explore,
But as we mature,
It becomes clear that
Those special experiences
Are only meaningful
When they arise from
And return to
A life of ordinary kindness.

Bo Lozoff

Living With The Wound -Mark Nepo

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‘There is a need to be specific
if we are to survive,
which requires being honest,
the way seeing requires
the eyes to stay open.

It means I can tell you
when you hurt me
and still count on your love.

It means being honest
with myself, knowing
the ugly things are not
always someone else’s.

I’ve been thinking how
practical people cut the cord
to those who’ve broken hope,
the way breeders shoot horses
with broken legs, as if
there’s nothing to be done.

Now I know they do this
for themselves, not wanting
to care for a horse that cannot run,
not wanting to sit with a friend
who can’t find tomorrow, not wanting
to be saddled with anything
that will slow them down.

I used to think it bad timing.
When I was up, you were down.
When you were ready,
I was scared. But since
we’ve never given up on each other,
it’s clear that drinking wonder
when we’re sad is how we shed
the things we love about pain.

I have a right to joy
even when lonely,
even when in pain,
and you never need
to cover your wounds
when entering my house.

If your voice breaks, I’ll be a cup.
If your heart sweats, I’ll be a pillow
on which you’ll chance to dream
that weeping is singing
through an instrument
that’s hard to reach,
though it lands us like lightning
in the grasp of each other
where giving is a mirror
of all we cannot teach.’

 

-Mark Nepo

Get Real, with yourself.

 

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“Self-love is about being real with yourself, not speaking like a victim and creating healthy barriers for your own well-being. Put down whatever is slowing your down; disconnect from your ex if you want the next. Why would you hold on to something that consistently burns your hand? Are you fucking crazy?”

-Sylvester McNutt

Surrendering Control

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“Peace requires us to surrender our illusions of control. We can love and care for others but we cannot possess our children, lovers, family, or friends. We can assist them, pray for them, and wish them well, yet in the end their happiness and suffering depend on their thoughts and actions, not on our wishes.”

-Jack Kornfield

Emotional Intelligence: Mindful Parenting

 

 

 

 

This two-minute video is everything I aspire to be as a parent. If you haven’t already seen it, it’s a powerful video secretly recorded by a wife of her husband as he mindfully speaks to their daughter who is clearly very upset. It’s a great example of how we can help instill emotional intelligence into our children. When we respect and acknowledge our children’s emotions, we give them the tools to mindfully process and manage them more effectively. Little wonder it went viral.

I so admire how calm, compassionate and understanding the father is to his child’s feelings. He is talking to her but he is also mindfully listening to and respecting her feelings. He’s teaching her to acknowledge emotions rather than trying to hide or chase them away, observe them, label them if you like, and then try to let them go. As he explains, holding onto them for too long is when you find yourself in trouble.

It’s brilliant and such a tangible example of mindfulness. The video was posted on the Facebook page Love What Matters. You can go here and read the story in its entirety. Teachablemoment

I’ve already started teaching emotional intelligence to my two-year-old and it’s been interesting to see her positive reaction to it. Even at two years of age she finds comfort in being told that she’s allowed to have her current mood or feelings and that I will give her a safe place to have these feelings as well as strategies for moving past them.

Last night for example, she yelled at me and got in my face because I wouldn’t get on the floor and color-in with her. In my defense, I was 90% completed on another task and I really needed to get it done. And I’m also not going to simply give into a two-year old’s demands. I did however go down to her level, wipe her runny nose and tell her that I understood that she is angry with me and feeling disappointed. I explained that she’s allowed to feel that and that I still love her and if she wants a hug she can come and get one if and when she’s ready. She sat with arms folded and head down, eyes on the floor. I then moved away and let her be and within a minute she came over, hugged my arm and said “I love you mummy”. It was really beautiful. I validated her feelings, gave her space to feel it, and helped her release it. And when I had finished by task, I did get on the floor and draw with her. It ended well for all.