Drama Invites Dis-ease

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‘Sometimes people invite us into a drama that is of value to us—we have something to learn in the heart of it. But sometimes it is of no value to us—someone wants to live out their stuff, someone wants a woundmate to join them in their trigger-fest. Drama loves company. Drama needs company to flourish. And if we grew up with chaos, we may jump in without realizing that boundaries were possible. Old drama habits die hard. We recreate what we know best. But we do have a choice. We really do. We can tell them to live it out somewhere else. We can establish a boundary. We can choose peace. Developing your ‘no drama’ muscle may well save your life. A drama based lifestyle drains the adrenals and invites disease. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy that keeps coming back for more. Best to draw a line in the sand and refuse the invitation.’

-Jeff Brown

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A Life of Unlimited Possibility

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“There are people that you will never win with, no matter what you do. The ones that always leave you feeling badly about yourself. I have known many. Often members of our family, they are both the ones that we must avoid, and the ones that are the most difficult to avoid. If we continue to make an effort to connect, we are left feeling terribly about ourselves. If we disconnect altogether, we are left feeling guilty, selfish, perhaps responsible for their isolation. Often we blame ourselves for the state of the connection, even though we rationally know that we would have remained heartfully connected with them if they had been respectful. We would have found a way, if there was a way. We just would have. What gets lost in the shame shuffle is the fact that some people are truly impossible. Not just difficult, not just requiring of healthy boundaries, but impossible to maintain a healthy connection with. And their impossibility is not lodged in our actions, or choices, or efforts. It is not a consequence of our imperfections, decisions or missteps. It is lodged in their own issues and limitations. It is lodged in where they are at. They are simply IMPOSSIBLE. And the sooner we face that, the sooner we can live a life of unlimited possibility.”

Jeff Brown