“ITS ALL YOUR PROJECTION!” Erm.
No. It’s not always your projection.
Sometimes the other person
really IS angry, or sad, or scared,
or judging you.
Or fleeing themselves
by shaming you.
Sometimes you really CAN trust
your feeling, your gut intuition,
Sometimes it’s not a question of working on yourself more, clearing up your projections, but of simply standing in your truth, knowing yourself more deeply, validating your own vulnerable human experience.
Sometimes you’re totally projecting.
Sometimes you aren’t seeing clearly at all.
Sometimes it really is YOUR anger,
It’s your own incorrect thinking.
It’s your own unmet material
thrown onto the ‘other’
(really yourself). You must look for the truth
in each and every moment.
There’s no formula. No map.
Truth is alive!
So stay mindful, present, aware.
Don’t settle for easy answers.
Be willing to LOOK.
With humble, open eyes.
– Jeff Foster
“The hard things break. The soft things bend. The stubborn ones batter themselves against all that is immovable. The flexible adapt to what is before them. Of course, we are all hard and soft, stubborn and flexible, and so we all break until we learn to bend and are battered until we accept what is before us. This brings to mind the Sumerian tale of Gilgamesh, the stubborn, hard king who sought to ask the Immortal One the secret of life. He was told that there would be stones on his path to guide him. But in his urgency and pride, Gilgamesh was annoyed to find his path blocked, and so smashed the very stones that would help him. In his blindness of heart, he broke everything he needed to discover his way. With the same confusion, we too break what we need, push away those we love, and isolate ourselves when we need to be held most. There have been many times in my life when I have been too proud to ask for help or too afraid to ask to be held, and in the frenzy of my own isolation, like Gilgamesh, I have smashed the window I was trying to open, have split the bench I was trying to hammer, and have made matters worse by bruising the one I meant to be tender with. The live bough bends. The dead twig snaps. We are humbled to soften from our griefs, or else, in brittle time, become the next thing grieved.”
― Mark Nepo,
“Every crack is also an opening. When in the midst of great change, it is helpful to remember how a chick is born. From the view of the chick, it is a terrifying struggle. Confined and curled in a dark shell, half-formed, the chick eats all its food and stretches to the contours of its shell. It begins to feel hungry and cramped. Eventually, the chick begins to starve and feels suffocated by the ever-shrinking space of its world. Finally, its own growth begins to crack the shell, and the world as the chick knows it is coming to an end. Its sky is falling. As the chick wriggles through the cracks, it begins to eat its shell. In that moment—growing but fragile, starving and cramped, its world breaking—the chick must feel like it is dying. Yet once everything it has relied on falls away, the chick is born. It doesn’t die, but falls into the world.”
― Mark Nepo,
“Laugh, even when you feel too sick or too worn out or tired.
Smile, even when you’re trying not to cry and the tears are blurring your vision.
Sing, even when people stare at you and tell you your voice is crappy.
Trust, even when your heart begs you not to.
Twirl, even when your mind makes no sense of what you see.
Frolick, even when you are made fun of. Kiss, even when others are watching. Sleep, even when you’re afraid of what the dreams might bring.
Run, even when it feels like you can’t run any more.
And, always, remember, even when the memories pinch your heart. Because the pain of all your experience is what makes you the person you are now. And without your experience—you are an empty page, a blank notebook, a missing lyric. What makes you brave is your willingness to live through your terrible life and hold your head up high the next day. So don’t live life in fear. Because you are stronger now, after all the crap has happened, than you ever were back before it started.”
You really don’t realize how brilliantly beautiful you are, breaking old beliefs and grasping your bliss.
I realize it’s ridiculously hard and messy but you can do ridiculously hard and messy things.
Are you shaken?
Good. Keep going.
You were shaken before and here you are.
Still standing. Doing this.
Shining and expanding and gloriously undefined.
-Victoria Erickson, from the soon to be published ‘Rhythms and Roads’
Image by Talon Wolf
Just try to keep your mind in the present. Whatever arises in the mind, just watch it and let go of it. Don’t even wish to be rid of thoughts. Then the mind will return to its natural state. No discriminating between good and bad, hot and cold, fast and slow. No me and no you, no self at all—just what there is. When you walk there is no need to do anything special. Simply walk and see what is there. No need to cling to isolation or seclusion. Wherever you are, know yourself by being natural and watching. If doubts arise, watch them come and go. It’s very simple. Hold on to nothing. It’s as though you are walking down a road. Periodically you will run into obstacles. When you meet defilements, just see them and overcome them by letting them go. Don’t think about the obstacles you’ve already passed; don’t worry about those you have not yet seen. Stick to the present. Don’t be concerned about the length of the road or the destination. Everything is changing. Whatever you pass, don’t cling to it. Eventually the mind will reach its natural balance where practice is automatic. All things will come and go of themselves.
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“If you put your hand into a fire, does anyone have to tell you to move it? Do you have to decide? No: When your hand starts to burn, it moves. You don’t have to direct it; the hand moves itself. In the same way, once you understand, through inquiry, that an untrue thought causes suffering, you move away from it.” – Byron Katie
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“My darling, your heart so beautiful, so creative, so true. Let the world make nothing else out of you. Do not compromise your uniqueness for a copy.
Value your special way of seeing the world, do not be shy in telling your story.
Your life is yours so live it so. Do not care for whether people agree.
And when they try to make you someone else, tell them no.
Stand strong in your originality.
The trees will stand with you.
All things wild, free and as they should be salute you. You are not alone. There are those that have stayed true. Your path is a rarity. And upon it you will find all of wonderful you.”
“Be kind to yourself~ Make friends with the part of you that hurts – the shadows – the flaws – the hurts – the insecurities or self-doubt . They just need a little attention . Love . Patience . Gentleness . Because nothing stops hurting and nothing ever goes away until we are able to take a good look at ourselves and embrace our presence no matter how difficult it may be . The shadow is only scary because it is the unknown and unexplored part of our deepest fears . Once you learn to greet those parts of yourself, as any guest that enters the house of your mind ~welcome them all , each has a place~ you can begin to slowly understand what you try to hide from the world .”
Written by @awakenyou on instagram