unnamed

“We talk about how many women were raped last year, not about how many men raped women. We talk about how many girls in a school district were harassed last year, not about how many boys harassed girls. We talk about how many teenager girls in the state of Vermont got pregnant last year, rather than how many men and boys impregnated teenage girls.

So you can see how the use of the passive voice has a political effect. It shifts the focus off of men and boys and onto girls and women. Even the term ‘violence against women’  is problematic. It’s a passive construction; there’s no active agent in the sentence. It’s a bad thing that happens to women, but when you look at that term ’violence against women,’ nobody is doing it to them. It just happens to them. Men aren’t even a part of it.”

-Jackson Katz

I’ll admit that I’d never heard of Jackson Katz until I researched him after reading the above quote last night. A quote that to me is so incredibly profound. It highlights the need for more careful language that shifts the blame to the actual perpetrator, not the victim as regularly occurs.

What an incredible bio he has. Katz, a former football star, a TED Talk speaker, and I now know, is one of the most prominent voices in the pro-feminist men’s movement. His agenda is to educate men, particularly in college age campus settings, on what they can do to end sexual voilence.  Katz is also the co-founder of MVP Strategies (Mentors in Violence Prevention), one of the longest-running intervention training programs in the U.S. He has also created training materials for universities and school districts, NFL teams, several Major League Baseball teams, and even the U.S. Navy.

We all know that sexual voilence and harrassment isn’t a Hollywood issue. It is a societial issue that affects females from all walks of life, regardless of age, income and workplace. Perhaps the most promising thing that could come out of the Weinstein coverage is for more men to understand that harassment from males, of all ages and positions, happens to females of all ages and positions. Perhaps this nature of giving men like Weinstein a free pass will end.  It’s time to stop blaming the victims and start taking the issue seriously.

 

 

  Continue reading 
Advertisements

Don’t you just love Jeff Brown’s ability to cut through the bullshit?

845d9284-e291-4cf4-adc6-4102a49eb7f3

‘EVERYTHING is not a gift. There may be valued transformation that arises from many experiences, but that doesn’t mean that EVERY experience is a gift. If we lean too far in that direction, we will deny trauma and victimhood all together, something we have been mistakenly doing for centuries. No, everything is not a gift. Some experiences are horrors, and it is all we can do to heal from them. To suggest that someone MUST find the gift in them, is to add insult to injury. It is also to create a culture that welcomes all horrors, because, after all- “everything is a gift.” Let’s keep it grounded- sometimes, it’s a gift. Sometimes it’s a horror. And the only who can decide that is the person who had the experience.’ -JEFF BROWN

Breathe into Anger: Jeff Foster

216c26ff7c3393ca2cfa6e919dc96afa

BREATHE INTO ANGER

Make room for anger when it comes to visit.
Soften around it.
Grant it safe passage through the body.
Don’t reject it, numb it, distract yourself.
Don’t call it ‘unspiritual’ or ‘negative’.
No need to lash out or attack; simply breathe.

In, out. In, out.

Inhale and exhale through the heart of anger.
It is only a feeling!
Saturate the belly, heart, throat and head with oxygen.
Drench anger with a loving awareness.
Let the sensations of anger surge, burn, throb, pulsate.
Let anger be alive, in the sacred moment.

And remove the word ‘anger’ completely.
Strip away the concept, attend to reality.

Know this will pass. This is only sensation.
Know this is not a mistake. This is only a moment.
Know this is not a sign of your weakness or failure.
Let all thoughts in the mind float past, too.

You are not anger.
You are not ‘the angry one’.
You are the home for anger, this powerful and misunderstood energy, this ancient burning, this calling to remember your worth.

Be the embrace of anger, its sanctuary, its safe place.
It is only trying to protect you; give it the breath of life,
and bow to its righteous power.

– Jeff Foster

 

https://www.facebook.com/LifeWithoutACentre/
http://www.lifewithoutacentre.com