A Life of Unlimited Possibility

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“There are people that you will never win with, no matter what you do. The ones that always leave you feeling badly about yourself. I have known many. Often members of our family, they are both the ones that we must avoid, and the ones that are the most difficult to avoid. If we continue to make an effort to connect, we are left feeling terribly about ourselves. If we disconnect altogether, we are left feeling guilty, selfish, perhaps responsible for their isolation. Often we blame ourselves for the state of the connection, even though we rationally know that we would have remained heartfully connected with them if they had been respectful. We would have found a way, if there was a way. We just would have. What gets lost in the shame shuffle is the fact that some people are truly impossible. Not just difficult, not just requiring of healthy boundaries, but impossible to maintain a healthy connection with. And their impossibility is not lodged in our actions, or choices, or efforts. It is not a consequence of our imperfections, decisions or missteps. It is lodged in their own issues and limitations. It is lodged in where they are at. They are simply IMPOSSIBLE. And the sooner we face that, the sooner we can live a life of unlimited possibility.”

Jeff Brown 


4 thoughts on “A Life of Unlimited Possibility

  1. This. This. This.
    This is like balm to my soul.
    I have been in this situation too many times with family members you should never have to be.
    Mother. Father.
    When it says if you continue trying you feel terrible, yet if you disconnect…so many emotions. Guilt…so many. Maybe a lifetime to totally work through the hurt.
    But, letting go of the guilt is a must…but oh so hard.
    Thank you so much for this, Mrs Zen.
    Much love, CC

    • I didn’t see your comment, sorry CC. It’s comforting isn’t it, to realize that you can stop trying, stop feeling guilty, stop willing things to be different, because try as we may, some people (parent/s in both our instances) are simply impossible. Acceptance is hard, but it feels lighter.. Letting go is hard to, but it too leaves you lighter. I’m so glad I could share some balm for your beautiful soul. Love to you. 💓😌💓

      • Mrs Zen sometimes I wonder if there is a glitch between us in this system..lol! On WP, I mean. I am wondering if it is when I use my phone when comments don’t appear to you in notifications?
        I’ve noticed it before. Our wires getting crossed lol
        I got jokes early in the morning
        But it’s ok. Happens to me sometimes with certain people, too. Was why I was thinking out loud. 🙂

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